Your thoughts?

I've been thinking a lot about when and how to tell my employer that I'm quitting.

Employer doesn't know about the engagement currently underway let alone the wedding date/relocation plans. Given the way Emp has handled recent layoffs, I don't want to spill the beans too early. Being unemployed would give me more time to plan the wedding, but I kinda need the income to do the wedding.

I'd like to leave on good terms with the Emp. A former co-worker gave 2 weeks' notice for a departure she'd quietly planned for months and it left a bad taste. I don't want to do the same. I'd like to help transition a new person in if I can. Pass along some specialized knowledge to help avoid the "single point of failure" everyone's terrified of (while doing precious little to prevent). I know, it's more than my Emp would do for me ever in a million years, but it's something I would like to do.

On the plus side for the Emp, they're looking to fill a couple of positions soon--what's one more? They'll likely have a pool of candidates to choose from by the time I break my news. But how and when to do that...

Any ideas?